Discipline a child

Discipling a child is never easy . As mothers, sometimes, we tried to be "hard-hearted" but somehow or rather, whenever, the child comes out wif some cute funny ideas , our hearts will melt immediately forgetting how naughty he or she may be. Here is an article which i think is pretty useful but it all depends on whether the parents commence it well enough to make it effective. To Prevent your child from becoming spoiled:

• 1- Provide age-appropriate limits and rules for your child: Children need external controls until they develop self-control and self-discipline. Your child will still love your if you say "no" to him.
• 2- Require cooperation with important rules: Have 10 to 12 important rules that are not open to negotiation and make sure that other adult caretakers of the child are consistent with them. Then give your child choices in other areas that are not important. Show your child the options of which cereal to eat or what to wear and let the child choose.
• 3- Expect your child to cry: Respond to crying immediately when dealing with needs of the child. However when its part of a tantrum ignore it. But be careful to avoid denying him his feelings and don't call him a cry-baby or punish him for crying.
• 4- Don't allow tantrums to work: As long as your child stays in one place is not too disruptive or in a position to harm himself, you can safely ignore him during a tantrum.
• 5- Don't overlook discipline during quality time: When spending quality time it should be enjoyable, but also reality based, don't ease up on the rules.
• 6- Don't try to negotiate with young children: Don't give away your power as a parent. Only by age 14 to 16 a teenager can be negotiated with as an adult, you can ask for his input about what limits and consequences are fair. You don't have to give a reason for every rule. Sometimes it is just because "that's the rule".
• 7- teach your child to cope with boredom: Assuming you talk and play with your child several hours a day, you do not need to be his constant playmate. Sending your child off to "find something to do" is doing him a favor. Much good creative play, thinking and daydreaming come from coping with boredom.
• 8- Teach your child to wait: Waiting helps children learn with frustration. Delaying immediate gratification is something your child must learn gradually, and it takes practice.
• 9- Don't rescue your child from normal life challenges: These are opportunities for learning and problem solving. Always be available and supportive, but don't help your child with situations he can handle by himself.
• 10- Don't over praise your child: Praise your child for good behavior and following the rules. Praising your child while he is in the process of doing something may cause him to stop at each stop, expecting more praise.
• 11- Teach your child to respect the rights of adults: Spending every free moment of your evenings and weekends with your child is not good for your child or for you. Schedules nights out with your spouse or friend will not only nurture your adult relationships, but also help you to return to parenting with more to give. Your child needs to learn to accept separations from his parents.

For more informations: you may access into this blogspot:

http://thebabysitterwrites.blogspot.com/2008/07/spoiling-children.html

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